Starting the Conversation about In-Home Care

STARTING THE CONVERSATION ABOUT IN-HOME CARE SIGNS IT MIGHT BE TIME FOR A IN-HOME SENIOR CARE Resistance to leaving the house Weight loss from failure to cook or eat meals Refusal to shower and/or change clothes Forgetting to take medication regularly and as prescribed Getting confused when asked questions Isolation from friends and family members TIPS FOR HAVING THE CONVERSATION START EARLY Choose a comfortable time and place-keep it simple Forethought is vital during early stages of diseases like Parkinson's or Alzheimer's Ask open-ended questions to learn what is important to your loved one Use words that are non-threatening and avoid acting like a parent BE UNDERSTANDING Diagnosis of Parkinson's or Alzheimer's is scary to hear Realize that any resistance may be a result of fear of losing control Put yourself in your loved one's shoes-would you want help with personal care? Look for signs of depression BE HONEST Express concern without accusing "I'm worried about you" rather than "You can't take care of yourself" Provide examples, such as "Your medications got mixed up" Focus on the behavior, not the person BE RESPECTFUL It is hard for seniors to admit they can't do everything themselves anymore Suggest ideas without being pushy Remember that the decision is ultimately up to your loved one ASK FOR HELP Ask other seniors who use home care if they would be willing to talk about the benefits with your loved one Meet with your loved one and his or her doctor for an unbiased opinion Contact your local Veterans Administration or Area Agency on Aging for guidance INFOGRAPHIC PROVIDED BY: Comfort Keepers, www.comfortkeepersspringkop.com SOURCES: www.comfortkeepers.com/office-326/family-education-center/starting-the-conversation www.helpguide.org/elder/senior_services_living_home.htm www.caregiverstress.com/family-communication/40-70/communication-tips