the importance of goals & when to give up!

IMPORTANCE OF "He who has a 'why' to live for can bear almost any 'how'. If we find a reason, we can overcome anything" HAVING GOALS Nietzche MAKING GOALS IS VITAL FOR HAPPINESS IT'S STRONGLY SELF REGULATION - GIVING A SENSE OF ASSOCIATED WITH MAKING BEING ABLE TO DEFINE MEANING PROGRESS TO PERSONALLY AN ACCEPTABLE RELEVANT GOALS PERFORMANCE LEVEL "The search for meaning* must always come before the pursuit of happiness." Viktor Frankl Why we have .. *The perception of meaning defined as becoming aware of what can be done about a given situation. Organise time How we categorise ... Make decisions Outcome goals Environmentally controlled, and can be demotivating. Prioritize resources Measure life progress Performance goals In your control and associated with higher performance. Learn new skills Develop sense of meaning Process goals Performance sub-goals Learning goals Situations where you have little or no expertise How we express ... concrete To be the best + To go to any event 5 days a week abstract Success in completing ... networker approach Be more aware avoidance Avoid conflict with of peer's need my peer autonomous 95% - Have a specific accountability action plan with the accountability partner control Get a promotion Move into the because I would enjoy the work. 65% - Commit to the plan with an accountability partner family business because my family expects this of me. 50% - Plan how to do it 40% - Decide when to do it 10% - Have an idea 20 40 60 80 100 Data: Wiseman, R (2004) Did you Spot the Gorilla Knowing when to give up a goal Be brave and recognise when it's time to give up a goal. Abandoning a goal is wise when: Fear of Failure is the biggest reason which holds people back from taking action as we stand to lose more in the event of failure. And so, fear kicks in to protect our fragile self esteem. Preventative strategies include: Rate of progress isn't sufficient. Circumstances have changed. Self-handicapping - Creating conditions to explain or excuse a potential failure Defensive pessimism - Consciously setting extremely low expecations for the future Procrastination - Putting off overwhelming or unenjoyable work. The goal is no longer relevant. Research evidence points to 'giving up' being a human strength! Giving up a goal is better than slacking on effort as it stops you from | being stuck in no-mans land where you're unable to move forward and never fully disengage from the task. Take courage and accept that failure is inevitable How to commit to worthy goals Make it Fun and Appealing, Add Beauty Examine closely what underlying Values are driving you Build in Failure - purposely make mistakes and see what emerges Focus on progress & Celebrate small successes along the way Have a learning mindset Hire an accountability coach created by the good coach Reference: Biswas-Diener, R. (2012) The Courage Quotient Spence, G (2007) GAS Powered Coaching Cavanagh, M, Imagery and Rehersal Piktochart IMPORTANCE OF "He who has a 'why' to live for can bear almost any 'how'. If we find a reason, we can overcome anything" HAVING GOALS Nietzche MAKING GOALS IS VITAL FOR HAPPINESS IT'S STRONGLY SELF REGULATION - GIVING A SENSE OF ASSOCIATED WITH MAKING BEING ABLE TO DEFINE MEANING PROGRESS TO PERSONALLY AN ACCEPTABLE RELEVANT GOALS PERFORMANCE LEVEL "The search for meaning* must always come before the pursuit of happiness." Viktor Frankl Why we have .. *The perception of meaning defined as becoming aware of what can be done about a given situation. Organise time How we categorise ... Make decisions Outcome goals Environmentally controlled, and can be demotivating. Prioritize resources Measure life progress Performance goals In your control and associated with higher performance. Learn new skills Develop sense of meaning Process goals Performance sub-goals Learning goals Situations where you have little or no expertise How we express ... concrete To be the best + To go to any event 5 days a week abstract Success in completing ... networker approach Be more aware avoidance Avoid conflict with of peer's need my peer autonomous 95% - Have a specific accountability action plan with the accountability partner control Get a promotion Move into the because I would enjoy the work. 65% - Commit to the plan with an accountability partner family business because my family expects this of me. 50% - Plan how to do it 40% - Decide when to do it 10% - Have an idea 20 40 60 80 100 Data: Wiseman, R (2004) Did you Spot the Gorilla Knowing when to give up a goal Be brave and recognise when it's time to give up a goal. Abandoning a goal is wise when: Fear of Failure is the biggest reason which holds people back from taking action as we stand to lose more in the event of failure. And so, fear kicks in to protect our fragile self esteem. Preventative strategies include: Rate of progress isn't sufficient. Circumstances have changed. Self-handicapping - Creating conditions to explain or excuse a potential failure Defensive pessimism - Consciously setting extremely low expecations for the future Procrastination - Putting off overwhelming or unenjoyable work. The goal is no longer relevant. Research evidence points to 'giving up' being a human strength! Giving up a goal is better than slacking on effort as it stops you from | being stuck in no-mans land where you're unable to move forward and never fully disengage from the task. Take courage and accept that failure is inevitable How to commit to worthy goals Make it Fun and Appealing, Add Beauty Examine closely what underlying Values are driving you Build in Failure - purposely make mistakes and see what emerges Focus on progress & Celebrate small successes along the way Have a learning mindset Hire an accountability coach created by the good coach Reference: Biswas-Diener, R. (2012) The Courage Quotient Spence, G (2007) GAS Powered Coaching Cavanagh, M, Imagery and Rehersal Piktochart IMPORTANCE OF "He who has a 'why' to live for can bear almost any 'how'. If we find a reason, we can overcome anything" HAVING GOALS Nietzche MAKING GOALS IS VITAL FOR HAPPINESS IT'S STRONGLY SELF REGULATION - GIVING A SENSE OF ASSOCIATED WITH MAKING BEING ABLE TO DEFINE MEANING PROGRESS TO PERSONALLY AN ACCEPTABLE RELEVANT GOALS PERFORMANCE LEVEL "The search for meaning* must always come before the pursuit of happiness." Viktor Frankl Why we have .. *The perception of meaning defined as becoming aware of what can be done about a given situation. Organise time How we categorise ... Make decisions Outcome goals Environmentally controlled, and can be demotivating. Prioritize resources Measure life progress Performance goals In your control and associated with higher performance. Learn new skills Develop sense of meaning Process goals Performance sub-goals Learning goals Situations where you have little or no expertise How we express ... concrete To be the best + To go to any event 5 days a week abstract Success in completing ... networker approach Be more aware avoidance Avoid conflict with of peer's need my peer autonomous 95% - Have a specific accountability action plan with the accountability partner control Get a promotion Move into the because I would enjoy the work. 65% - Commit to the plan with an accountability partner family business because my family expects this of me. 50% - Plan how to do it 40% - Decide when to do it 10% - Have an idea 20 40 60 80 100 Data: Wiseman, R (2004) Did you Spot the Gorilla Knowing when to give up a goal Be brave and recognise when it's time to give up a goal. Abandoning a goal is wise when: Fear of Failure is the biggest reason which holds people back from taking action as we stand to lose more in the event of failure. And so, fear kicks in to protect our fragile self esteem. Preventative strategies include: Rate of progress isn't sufficient. Circumstances have changed. Self-handicapping - Creating conditions to explain or excuse a potential failure Defensive pessimism - Consciously setting extremely low expecations for the future Procrastination - Putting off overwhelming or unenjoyable work. The goal is no longer relevant. Research evidence points to 'giving up' being a human strength! Giving up a goal is better than slacking on effort as it stops you from | being stuck in no-mans land where you're unable to move forward and never fully disengage from the task. Take courage and accept that failure is inevitable How to commit to worthy goals Make it Fun and Appealing, Add Beauty Examine closely what underlying Values are driving you Build in Failure - purposely make mistakes and see what emerges Focus on progress & Celebrate small successes along the way Have a learning mindset Hire an accountability coach created by the good coach Reference: Biswas-Diener, R. (2012) The Courage Quotient Spence, G (2007) GAS Powered Coaching Cavanagh, M, Imagery and Rehersal Piktochart IMPORTANCE OF "He who has a 'why' to live for can bear almost any 'how'. If we find a reason, we can overcome anything" HAVING GOALS Nietzche MAKING GOALS IS VITAL FOR HAPPINESS IT'S STRONGLY SELF REGULATION - GIVING A SENSE OF ASSOCIATED WITH MAKING BEING ABLE TO DEFINE MEANING PROGRESS TO PERSONALLY AN ACCEPTABLE RELEVANT GOALS PERFORMANCE LEVEL "The search for meaning* must always come before the pursuit of happiness." Viktor Frankl Why we have .. *The perception of meaning defined as becoming aware of what can be done about a given situation. Organise time How we categorise ... Make decisions Outcome goals Environmentally controlled, and can be demotivating. Prioritize resources Measure life progress Performance goals In your control and associated with higher performance. Learn new skills Develop sense of meaning Process goals Performance sub-goals Learning goals Situations where you have little or no expertise How we express ... concrete To be the best + To go to any event 5 days a week abstract Success in completing ... networker approach Be more aware avoidance Avoid conflict with of peer's need my peer autonomous 95% - Have a specific accountability action plan with the accountability partner control Get a promotion Move into the because I would enjoy the work. 65% - Commit to the plan with an accountability partner family business because my family expects this of me. 50% - Plan how to do it 40% - Decide when to do it 10% - Have an idea 20 40 60 80 100 Data: Wiseman, R (2004) Did you Spot the Gorilla Knowing when to give up a goal Be brave and recognise when it's time to give up a goal. Abandoning a goal is wise when: Fear of Failure is the biggest reason which holds people back from taking action as we stand to lose more in the event of failure. And so, fear kicks in to protect our fragile self esteem. Preventative strategies include: Rate of progress isn't sufficient. Circumstances have changed. Self-handicapping - Creating conditions to explain or excuse a potential failure Defensive pessimism - Consciously setting extremely low expecations for the future Procrastination - Putting off overwhelming or unenjoyable work. The goal is no longer relevant. Research evidence points to 'giving up' being a human strength! Giving up a goal is better than slacking on effort as it stops you from | being stuck in no-mans land where you're unable to move forward and never fully disengage from the task. Take courage and accept that failure is inevitable How to commit to worthy goals Make it Fun and Appealing, Add Beauty Examine closely what underlying Values are driving you Build in Failure - purposely make mistakes and see what emerges Focus on progress & Celebrate small successes along the way Have a learning mindset Hire an accountability coach created by the good coach Reference: Biswas-Diener, R. (2012) The Courage Quotient Spence, G (2007) GAS Powered Coaching Cavanagh, M, Imagery and Rehersal Piktochart IMPORTANCE OF "He who has a 'why' to live for can bear almost any 'how'. If we find a reason, we can overcome anything" HAVING GOALS Nietzche MAKING GOALS IS VITAL FOR HAPPINESS IT'S STRONGLY SELF REGULATION - GIVING A SENSE OF ASSOCIATED WITH MAKING BEING ABLE TO DEFINE MEANING PROGRESS TO PERSONALLY AN ACCEPTABLE RELEVANT GOALS PERFORMANCE LEVEL "The search for meaning* must always come before the pursuit of happiness." Viktor Frankl Why we have .. *The perception of meaning defined as becoming aware of what can be done about a given situation. Organise time How we categorise ... Make decisions Outcome goals Environmentally controlled, and can be demotivating. Prioritize resources Measure life progress Performance goals In your control and associated with higher performance. Learn new skills Develop sense of meaning Process goals Performance sub-goals Learning goals Situations where you have little or no expertise How we express ... concrete To be the best + To go to any event 5 days a week abstract Success in completing ... networker approach Be more aware avoidance Avoid conflict with of peer's need my peer autonomous 95% - Have a specific accountability action plan with the accountability partner control Get a promotion Move into the because I would enjoy the work. 65% - Commit to the plan with an accountability partner family business because my family expects this of me. 50% - Plan how to do it 40% - Decide when to do it 10% - Have an idea 20 40 60 80 100 Data: Wiseman, R (2004) Did you Spot the Gorilla Knowing when to give up a goal Be brave and recognise when it's time to give up a goal. Abandoning a goal is wise when: Fear of Failure is the biggest reason which holds people back from taking action as we stand to lose more in the event of failure. And so, fear kicks in to protect our fragile self esteem. Preventative strategies include: Rate of progress isn't sufficient. Circumstances have changed. Self-handicapping - Creating conditions to explain or excuse a potential failure Defensive pessimism - Consciously setting extremely low expecations for the future Procrastination - Putting off overwhelming or unenjoyable work. The goal is no longer relevant. Research evidence points to 'giving up' being a human strength! Giving up a goal is better than slacking on effort as it stops you from | being stuck in no-mans land where you're unable to move forward and never fully disengage from the task. Take courage and accept that failure is inevitable How to commit to worthy goals Make it Fun and Appealing, Add Beauty Examine closely what underlying Values are driving you Build in Failure - purposely make mistakes and see what emerges Focus on progress & Celebrate small successes along the way Have a learning mindset Hire an accountability coach created by the good coach Reference: Biswas-Diener, R. (2012) The Courage Quotient Spence, G (2007) GAS Powered Coaching Cavanagh, M, Imagery and Rehersal Piktochart