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Holiday Guide for Newly Divorced Parents

Holiday Guide • for newly Divorced parents Over 50% of marriages end in divorce, and nearly half of all children will experience their parents separating before they turn 16. Follow these tips to create a safe, stress-free holiday Handling the first holiday after divorce is one of the for everyone. greatest challenges any newly divorced parent will face. cAct in their best [uterest The most important rule you need to remember: It's no longer about you. The choices you make and the arrangements you propose should always be in the best interest of your children. DECIDE WHAT'S BEST: Sitting down to Thanksgiving with your co-parent Sharing the kids Choosing one home between or the other where the holiday events. kids can celebrate. and anyone new in their life. Don't forget to set up rules for your extended family. Talk to the grandparents and make sure they know what you and your ex have decided-and make sure they're on board. Create new Ribuals Start fresh: Build new traditions and rituals to create new memories instead of holding onto old hurts. Involve the children in the decision-making and make them an important part of the holiday. This will give them a sense of control and help ease their stress. Make Plaus Ease holiday paralysis by making plans ahead of time. Knowing what's coming will make things easier for you and your kids. Staying occupied will help everyone keep moving forward. Be flexible and open to spontaneity. Plans can be altered. Listen to your Children Don't panic and Never get into the blame don't minimize game in front of your kids. what your child is feeling. Even if you no longer get along with your former Let them talk. partner, for your child, •LISTEN.• that's still mom or dad. o Avcid the GuiltTrip Kids know when you're trying to "BUY" their affection. Lay off the expensive guilt gifts Set up boundaries-with your and focus on tending to your co-parent-and stick to them. child's emotional needs. S Dout Compete. Coeperate If your holidays involve gift-giving, think twice about springing for a big ticket item without talking to your ex. This is no time to play "Who Loves You Most." Many adult children of divorced parents say that if Call a their parents are still bickering and fighting, they'd rather not spend the holidays with either of them. truce Be Realistic and accept [umperfecticus You won't be perfect 100% of the time, At some point, you will feel overwhelmed and out of control. When that happens, take a deep breath, take some time and forgive yourself. Then let it go and keep moving forward. HOLIDAYS are TOUGH. Source http://www.totaldivorce.com/blog/2012/11/15/ a-holiday-guide-for-newly-divorced-parents/ Itotal divorce"

Holiday Guide for Newly Divorced Parents

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Over 50% of marriages end in divorce, and nearly half of all children experience their parents separating before they turn 16. Handling the first holiday after divorce is one of the greatest challenge...

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